Reasons I stopped believing in marriage

Somewhere along the line years ago, I stopped believing in marriage. It wasn't a shock. I have been indifferent about the whole institution since secondary school. It was a gradual process and one day, I realised it wasn't something I aspired to. It's all meh to me. Like meeting Trump. Whether or not it happens, it's just mehhhhhhh.

My parents know this. They have accepted it. They'd rather pray about it than talk to me about it which is perfect as far as I'm concerned. As Christians, we are taught to choose God-fearing men. The preachers would scream that no matter how poor or ugly he is, if he fears God, go for him.

We women fall for that line and marry the most Bible-quoting man they come across. They fail to understand that at the end of the day, a God-fearing man isn't necessarily a good man. Most women stuck in a he£llhole of a marriage are married to "God-fearing" men.

One day, my friend Chioma had many encounters with god-fearing men. One of the worst mistakes you could make is to date a man whose top quality is god-fearing. Hyp0crisy- A1.
They justify shi!t with Bible verses.
Instead of, "baby, I'm h0rny. Let's do na."You'll hear, "I'm so full and vi!bra ting with passion. My spirit, soul and body is alive and thirsts for your presence."

The way they'll hold you ehn, as if they are having epi*lepsy. You'll not even know that they're rubbing their joy*stick on your body whilst pretending that they're trying to control the ur@ge. In the process, Aunty, they'll come.. without anybody 'offi!ng' clothe o.

The same mouth they'll use and tell you that marriage is honourable, and the bed unde€filed.. let's maintain a godly relationship so that we can use it as a ground to demand things from God.. let's go and see our pastor and my daddies-in-the-lord- they'll use that same mouth to cry to you for s€.x while grabbing their cr0.uch and telling you they can't hold it again after two days of relationship.

The kind that use their bible as a tool to subdue and subjugate their wives. You hear "the bible says you should submit to me" more than any other bible verse. These men abuse, cheat and humiliate their partners, yet they go to church and take a front seat.

Fortunately for me, I know that a God-fearing man isn't always a good man and a good man isn't always God-fearing. I stopped judging men by their 'God-fearingness' when I had that epiphany. Keep your tools and verses of subjugation and slavery away from me. I'm not a War Room woman. I don't want a War Room man. If you believe it is your wife's duty to pray you out of your stupi!dity, your brain is as vestigial as your appendix.