How To Experience The True Beauty Of Marriage

A lot of people who go on about wanting a perfect husband or wife are quite miserable when they do get married because they want something that is just not possible; they want the kind of person that just doesn't exist. As long as you want to marry someone who has flesh and blood, you must accept that person as limited, flawed, and error prone! They will have to accept this same truth about you!
Please know that you have to give your spouse room to be imperfect; it will relieve you of so much stress and frustrations. 

It doesn't mean issues should not be addressed and dealt with; but even when you have to do this, you must come from a place of love and understanding if you want issues to be resolved. It doesn't mean you should be walked all over. It doesn't mean that he or she should not work on improving themselves, particularly if it is damaging your relationship. It means that you acknowledge your own imperfections and weaknesses too! They may be genuinely trying their best to say and do things the right way, but they will sometimes make mistakes, even the best husbands and wives make mistakes, and that's ok.

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You will too. I will too. That's all a part of marriage. What determines our experience is our perspective and our perspective determines how we handle each other! In fact, if you are in a relationship leading to marriage now and the person is just perfect, they don't offend, they don't do some things that irritate or annoy you, they have nothing to improve on, if you claim to love EVERYTHING about the person - let's face it, it's all f@ke!! 

It's not a sin to want them to improve on some areas, it's not a sin to acknowledge their weaknesses. So stop looking for a perfect spouse and stop putting pressure on your spouse to be perfect. If you want perfect, then maybe get a pet. In fact, a pet will still offend you. Or maybe just have a good looking statue, but that statue may end up annoying you. Point is - If you really want to be married to a human being, you must accept them as they are and work together to bring out the best in each other and ultimately in your relationship. That's how to experience the true beauty of marriage.