All this talk about the husband having to be taller than the wife in pictures, the arguments for and against, are interesting. My husband is slightly taller than I am. When I go on heels, we're about the same height. A friend of mine is taller than her husband, and they are happy with their heights like that.
I had never liked guys I was taller than. I was attracted to only men I could stare up at. Who wants to be looking down at their man? Biko, not my thing. There was no way I could have fallen in love with a shorter guy. And this is no fault of theirs. It's just me.
Same way I feel everyone should be left with their choices of what they want. If a lady falls in love with a short guy and in pictures they want to depict that the guy is taller, whose business? If they feel it makes for a representation of the perfect couple pose, then by all means, let them enjoy.
Even photographers have the prerogative to follow this narrative. I don't think it in any way means the woman is being dwarfed by the man. It's just how they want it. We've also had pictures where the woman is put on a dais and the man stands, looking up at her. Who complains?
To me, the best pictures are of couples that don't have their heights emphasized. There are different poses to achieve that and photographers today know how to work those angles.
But sometimes, we should just let people enjoy their togetherness the way they want it.
Not everything is about gender equality. Just because the man is made taller in the picture doesn't mean the woman is less than him in their relationship. Yes, it is sad and demeaning to tell a woman to bow to a man just to make him appear superior. But this is not always the case, especially when taking photographs.
I'm learning that sometimes, when I see something that irks me as someone who is passionate about gender equality, I should breathe, unlock and waka pass. It's not always that deep. And when people lose their commonsense over clear-cut issues, I flip the script on them.
On this Emmanuel guy and that irritating post he made, I'd like to ask every guy that is making excuses for him, would you let him come near your teenage daughter or sister to 'catch her young' because she is naive and easy? Would you allow your closest, most trusted friend go near her, even when she turns 18 or 19 or 20?
The first time I came across the word 'grooming' as regards to pedo0philes, it was from foreign media. A man had been arrested for grooming a teenage girl over the web. No contact, no cyber $×, nothing some of you here would find odd. He was merely catching her young for the perfect time but he was arrested and was going to face years in jail.
That's a sane society. But not in Naija where a grown ass man will be eyeing a teenage girl and we'll still be asking if he has any $×ual intent. Ogbeni, what is he eyeing her for? To venture into business with her? To discuss the state of the economy? Why can't he go after his mates? His friends that are dating and marrying adults, do they have two brains?
What the heck is wrong with you people excusing this despicable shit? See ehn... Nigeria ehn... Too much to say but very little energy tonight. But for those of you talking, continue. It's easy to excuse evil when you're not concerned. Keep condoning until it will get to you.
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